Monthly Archives: January 2010

Hate Mail

Someone forwarded this to me yesterday:

Looks pretty doesn’t it? Pretty deceiving….

USPS 44-Cent Stamp Celebrates Muslim holidays Eid Al-Fitr and Eid Al-Adha .

If there is only ONE thing you forward today… let it be this!

REMEMBER to adamantly & vocally BOYCOTT this stamp, when you are
purchasing your stamps at the post office.

All you have to say is “No thank you, I do not want that Muslim Stamp
on my letters!”

To use this stamp would be a slap in the face to all those AMERICANS
who died at the hands of those whom this stamp honors.

REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of Pan Am Flight 103!
REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the World Trade Center in 1993!
REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the Marine Barracks in Lebanon !
REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the Military Barracks in Saudi Arabia !
REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the American Embassies in Africa !
REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the USS COLE!
REMEMBER the MUSLIM attack on 9/11/2001 !
REMEMBER all the AMERICAN lives that were lost in those vicious MUSLIM

Pass this along to every Patriotic American that you know and get the
word out! Honor the United States of America !

I have a lot to say about this, but let me limit it to these few points. One, this is hate speech (“I do not want that Muslim Stamp on my letters!” sounds exactly like “I don’t want those fags living in my neighborhood,” or any number of other closed-minded, ignorant statements) and if it does anything – at least, for me – it inspires me to go out and buy these stamps (if they, in fact, even existed… we’ll get to that in a second). The response I sent to the person who forwarded this to me essentially said that I WOULD buy these stamps, and that it’s messages like this one that serve to perpetuate the hate and misunderstanding that gets us all into so much trouble.

Two, the stamp featured in the email doesn’t even exist, at least, not as something one can go in and buy (or object to) at the Post Office; it’s a custom design that someone created on the zazzle website (and yes, I checked ALL of the USPS offerings on their website. The only Eid stamp I could find was this one (and yes, I’ve bought this stamp):

So, this is my way of forwarding this email: please, if this finds its way into your inbox, forward it out with the message that you DON’T condone its hateful rhetoric.  If we don’t start treating each other with respect and dignity – if we don’t start fostering understanding and compassion instead of hate and oppression – we will surely hasten our collective doom.


Filed under compassion and connection, concerns, dumbassery, frustrations, General Bitching, ideas and opinions, politics, social issues, strange but true, this is NOT a drill, Worries and Anxieties, WTF?!

Quick Hit

I found out about Stacyann Chin via Feministing yesterday.  I still haven’t checked out many of her poems, but this one made me well up:

I believe that ‘holy‘ is what you do when there is nothing between your actions and the truth.”



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Three for Thursday

Three things I’m doing instead of blogging:

1.  Putting the finishing touches on the materials I’m using for my next round of CHS classes.

2.  Taking care of fussy little housekeeping things (like filling the humidifiers and wiping up salty-sandy footprints in the foyer) that have been bugging me for days.

3.  Going out for my “birthday dinner” with my in-laws (no, they didn’t forget; they’ve just been busy since the 15th and this is their first free evening).

I hope your day is as productive as mine has been!


Filed under Little Bits of Nothingness, my oh-so-exciting life

Nearly Wordless Wednesday

Because I’m speechless…

“Those of you who aren’t Christians… well, get over it”?We hunt people for Jesus; hunt ‘em down; get the hounds of Heaven after ‘em… that’s our business!


hat tip to Stucco.


Filed under concerns, frustrations, politics, strange but true, this is NOT a drill, WTF?!

Ten Things Tuesday

The “Road to Hell” edition.

You know what they say about the road to Hell being paved with good intentions, right?  Well, Kizz inspired me, by posting her list of goals yesterday, to make a “Ten Things for ’10” list of things I plan on accomplishing over the course of this year.  Ready?

1.  READ MORE! Last year was a total loss for my reading practice (it was a total loss for a lot of things, really, but it’s the lack of reading that I most regret).  My plan for this year is to read AT LEAST a novel a month, and to keep track of – and maybe even review – those novels here.  So far, I’ve finished The Zookeeper’s Wife, and I’m a good way into my second reading of The Autobiography of Malcolm X.  Check back in a day or so; I’ll probably start a new page (check out the tabs at the header) for keeping track of my reading.

2.  Get organized professionally. I feel like I’ve got a pretty good handle on things personally, but my desk at school is a mess.  I think I’ll be able to make a huge amount of progress on this when we move into our new space and I get my own room; right now, I’m sort of camping out in someone else’s room and, as such, I’m prevented from really settling in.  I’m starting to get a handle on course planning and syllabus creation, so the theoretical stuff is getting lined up, but the books, the handouts, the materials, and the movies are still in a big, only slightly organized pile, and that’s what I want to change.  My goal is to be able to go to a drawer (or a book shelf) and put my hands right on what I want.  Right now, I have to dig and shift to find stuff, and that’s what I want to change.

3.  Simplify. I’m actually getting pretty good at this, in fact; I’m being a lot more ruthless about the things that I/we need to have around the house, and what could be sent out into the world to do good elsewhere.  I just delivered unto the Wayfarer clan seven bags of clothes, toys, books, and plastic cups that my girls no longer use.  I’m thinking long and hard before I bring new stuff into my house, and I’m making sure that the things that are already there are things that serve a purpose, whether it’s because I love them or because they are practically useful.  I’m not going around purging everything, but I will, for example, send out things that I encounter in my travels around the house that I haven’t wanted, needed, or even looked at for a significant amount of time.  Life is too short to get bogged down with unneeded, unloved stuff.

4.  Eat in more. While I love going out to eat, I’m pretty sure that we spend way more in restaurants than is strictly prudent.  I am a really great cook (and no, I’m not being vain), and I like having my family around the table, so putting meals together at home makes a lot of sense.  I am also looking to expand my repertoire of staples; there are certain things that I can throw together on a moment’s notice, but I’m getting a little tired of them.  Of course,  that will mean I’ll have to do some dinner planning (which is something that’s perpetually on my New Year’s to-do list)…

5.  Get out more. I know this sounds incongruous given what I just said, but follow me for a minute; last year, I spent most of my time involved in a single thing, and that single thing didn’t allow much room (well… any, really) for outside activities.  I really want to see the friends I let fall by the wayside last year.  I really want to get on the train this spring and spend a weekend in NYC with Kizz.  I really want to spend time with the people I love who took care of me while I was taking care of my mother.

6.  Get more professionally involved. There are a ton of different organizations and projects that I can wiggle my way into that will help me become a more effective teacher.  I’m going to take as many of the professional development courses offered by Local U. (because most of them are free!).  I’m working on putting together an application for a fellowship to the US Holocaust Memorial Museum this summer.  I’ve joined one professional association and am looking into a couple of others.  I’m also going to keep track of all that stuff so that, when my license comes up for renewal, I’ll have it all put together and organized.

7.  Date my husband. You know, I really LIKE this guy, and I don’t feel like we get nearly enough ‘us’ time.  I’ve come to understand that the only way that’s going to happen, though, is if we actually schedule it.  I’m going to see if I can get in the habit of putting together a just-us, out-of-the-house night once a month.

8.  Deepen my practice. Right now, I’m only doing yoga regularly once a week.  I am in conversation with one of the directors of the yoga studio in which I took my 200 hour certification (which happens to be in the same building as CHS) about picking up a class or two, and Bowyer’s hooking me up with an after-school enrichment program in his district that, I think, is going to start in March.  I need the yoga for a lot of reasons, but not the least of them is to keep my body moving (the arthritis will catch up with me if I don’t) and to keep me emotionally balanced.  My meditation practice has gone straight to hell, and I need to get it back.

9.  Get my literal house in order. Not only am I working on consolidating and purging and keeping only what’s loved and/or needed in the house, but I also want to get some big things done, like getting the back deck put on, the upstairs bathroom finished, the house re-sided and, if we’ve got the means, getting the driveway redone and having some work done in the yard.

10.  Close out my mother’s estate. Really, the last thing I have to do as executor is file taxes for the estate.  I’m not sure how to go about doing that; I’ve not received any tax-related documents from anyone – bank, Medicare, anything – and I’m not sure how, or whether, someone who was unemployed for several years even files taxes, but I do know that the taxes will be my last responsibility to my mother.  I’m not going to lie when I tell you that I’ll be happy to be done with it.


Filed under my oh-so-exciting life, ten things Tuesday

Monday Meme; Check Out This Cool Shit …

Boosted, with gratitude, from Chatty.

1. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?

Just ONE?!  Right now, pretty much anyone in Congress will do…

2. You can flip a switch that will wipe any band or musical artist out of existence. Which one will it be?

Miley Cyrus

3. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?

Mrs. A.

4. What is your favorite cheese?


5. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your immediate disposal. What kind will you make?

Mmmmm, chicken dinner sandwiches; chicken (or turkey; I’m not picky), stuffing, cranberry sauce, maybe some cold creamed onions, and a little mayo on toast.  YUM!

6. You have the opportunity to sleep with the movie celebrity of your choice. We are talking no-strings-attached sex and it can only happen once. Who is the lucky celebrity of your choice?

Will Smith

7. You have the opportunity to sleep with the music-celebrity of your choice. Whom do you pick?

Matt Scannell

8. Now that you’ve slept with two different people in a row, you seem to be having an excellent day because you just came across a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk. Holy shit, a hundred bucks! How are you gonna spend it?


9. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere. You have to depart right now. Where are you gonna go?

Someplace warm.  Florida, Hawaii, or Bermuda… any is fine; let me know when we land…

10. Upon arrival to the aforementioned location, you get off the plane and discover another hundred-dollar bill. Shit! Now that you are in the new location, what are you gonna do?

Buy a plane ticket back home (I’m not staying here, right?)

11. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. It is…?

vanilla rum

12. Rufus appears out of nowhere with a time-traveling phone booth. You can go anytime in the PAST. What time are you traveling to and what are you going to do when you get there?

I’m 18 and making one important choice differently.

13. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place?

Be nice or leave.

14. You have been given the opportunity to create the half-hour TV show of your own design. What is it called and what’s the premise?

Oh, MAN!  I’d have a book club show!  Authors and teachers and thinkers…

15.What is your favorite curse word?


16.One night you wake up because you heard a noise. You turn on the light to find that you are surrounded by MUMMIES. The mummies aren’t really doing anything, they’re just standing around your bed. What do you do?

Poke Mr. Chili and have him let them out.  That’s what I do when the cats start up.

17. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the item?

My laptop, probably.

18. The Angel of Death has descended upon you. Fortunately, the Angel of Death is pretty cool and in a good mood, and it offers you a half-hour to do whatever you want before you bite it. Whatcha gonna do in that half-hour?

Say goodbyes.

19. You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what’s even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What’s it gonna be?

I’d like the ability to communicate clearly with the other side of the veil.

20. You can re-live any point of time in your life. The time-span can only be a half-hour, though. What half-hour of your past would you like to experience again?

My wedding, no question.

21.You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?

A childhood trauma.

22. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world! Bitchin’! What country are you going to live in now?

Probably Australia; it’s warm there, and they already speak English.  I could also happily settle in Bermuda, and probably a small island nation somewhere in the Caribbean.

23. This question still counts, even for those of you who are under age. Check it out. You have been eternally banned from every single bar in the world except for ONE. Which one is it gonna be?

You could ban  me from all of them; I don’t go to bars.

24. Hopefully you didn’t mention this in the super-powers question…. If you did, then we’ll just expand on that. Check it out… Suddenly, you have gained the ability to FLOAT!!! Whose house are you going to float to first, and be like “Dude, check it out…I can FLOAT!”?

I’d probably just hang around MY house and not worry about the stairs anymore.

25. The constant absorption of magical moonbeams mixed with the radioactive vegetables you consumed earlier has given you the ability to resurrect the dead famous-person of your choice. So which celebrity will you bring back to life?

Dr. King.

26. The Celestial Gates of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person, etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?

Oh, MAN.  I’m not comfortable messing with that kind of thing when it’s about ME.  I mean, celebrities and famous people?  I’ll bring those folks back, but my own people?  I was going to say “my mother,” but that’d be too weird (and besides, I’m just getting used to the fact that she’s dead).  Oh!  I know!  I’d bring back Kizz’s cousin, who died just recently of an aneurysm.  She’s got a young daughter who needs her mom more than I need mine.

27. What’s your theme song?

“Because we Can” off the Moulin Rouge soundtrack. Because I can, can, can!


Filed under dumbassery, fun, funniness, Little Bits of Nothingness, meme, on death and dying, strange but true, weirdness

Don’t Exert Yourself…

I taught my yoga class this morning, but that’s about as strenuous as my day is going to get. My plans for the rest of the afternoon are for tomato soup and a grilled mozzarella sandwich and the Lord of the Rings; Fellowship with the girls on the big t.v. Yes, we watched it last week, but the girls didn’t get a chance to see it (they were busy entertaining Falcon’s Little Man, who’s still just a little too little for Orcs). I may just fall asleep on the couch…

My hope is that the snow holds off long enough for us to get to Chez Bowyer this early evening for supper and in-person fellowship. It’s going to be a good day!


Filed under Little Bits of Nothingness, movies, my oh-so-exciting life


We went to see Sherlock Holmes last night and enjoyed it quite a lot.

I’m REALLY looking forward to the second installment of Iron Man, too. Add Robert Downey Jr. to my list!


Filed under messages from the Universe, movies


In an hour and 25 minutes, I’ll have completed my 41st trip around the sun.  So far, it’s been quite a ride.

I am not someone who’s stressed out by her age.  In fact, I really looked forward to 35; it was then that I really felt like an authentic adult.  40 didn’t bother me at all, either, though I had much higher hopes for the year than how it actually turned out.  I’m glad I had the experiences I had and learned the lessons that I did, but I really thought, last year on this date, that my 40s would start off much smoother – and happier – than they did.

I’m not at all worried, though, as I continue to have faith in the progress of the Universe (and my own little place in it).  I am healthy and contented.  I am well loved and safe.  I have everything I need and, really, everything I want. I have an astoundingly happy family and I have glorious friends.  I have a job that I adore, and work enough to keep me busy and productive.  My life is good, and I’m grateful every day to be living it.

So here’s to 41.  My wish as I blow out my candles will be that this year will offer me a bit of a smoother ride than last, but that I also continue to be mindfully aware of all that my life has to teach me.  I remain open to love and friendship, and I promise to continue to work to make my little corner of the world a brighter, safer, smarter place.


Filed under celebration, compassion and connection, family matters, Friends, holiday, Home and Family, memorials, messages from the Universe, My husband rocks!, my oh-so-exciting life

Thought for Thursday

Office politics suck.  It’s hard to be someone who wants the kids to DO good next to someone who wants the kids to FEEL good.


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