Monthly Archives: June 2008

Monday Meme

Boosted from Tense, as per usual.

1. You have 10 dollars and need to buy snacks at a gas station. What do you get?

Diet coke, Doritoes and perhaps something chocolate – a Snickers bar or Kit Kats, I think..

2. If you were reincarnated as a sea creature, what would you want to be?

Something that nothing else chases and eats. Maybe a really pretty anemone or colorful coral?

3. Who’s your favorite redhead?

Mr. Chili, Punkin’ Pie, and Beanie.

4. What do you order when you’re at IHOP?

French toast with blueberry compote, a side of bacon, and orange juice.

5. Last book you read?

The Book Thief by Marcus Zusak

6. Describe your mood.

Antsy. I’ve got a lot of housekeeping to do, I need to plan for my class that starts next week, and I have a dentist’s appointment at 1:30 this afternoon…

7. Describe the last time you were injured.

Um… I can’t really remember. It would probably be when I threw my back out in January.

8. Of all your friends, who would you want to be stuck in a well with?
Mr. Chili. Man’s smart enough to figure us a way out.

9. Rock concert or symphony?

Rock concert, without question.

10. What is the wallpaper of your cell phone?
My iris icon.

11. Favorite soda?

I like Diet Coke with lemon.

12. What type of shirt are you wearing?

The soft green henley that came with the cute seersucker short pants in a p.j. set.

13. If you could only use one form of transportation, what would it be?

My Golf (though I’m also very fond of my legs – if it came to a choice between my car and my legs, my legs would win every time).

14. Most recent movie you have watched in theater?

We saw Wall-E last night with the girls. Pixar hits another one out of the park.

15. Name an actor/actress/singer you have the hots for.

Will Smith/ Kate Walsh /Sting

16. What’s your favorite kind of cake?

Oh, Lord – you want me to limit it to ONE?! Let’s say the only kind of cake I don’t love is spice cake and leave it at that.

17. What did you have for dinner last night?

A bowl of cereal after the movie.

18. Look to your left, what do you see?
A scanner/printer, an empty glass of Ovaltine, and a stack of books to be put on the shelves in my library. Oh, and two spider plants that are doing exceedingly well under the window; so much so that I’m almost afraid to move them.

19. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?

Most of my shoes don’t have ties, but I DO untie those that have them.

20. Favorite toy as a child?

I can’t really recall. I remember loving books, though, and baby dolls.

21. Do you buy your own groceries?

Yes. Who else would do it for me?

22. Do you think people talk about you behind your back?

Probably, but I don’t care.

23. When was the last time you had gummy worms?

Actually, I made a dirt cake for Punkin’s birthday in June, complete with silk flowers and gummy worms. I had a bite of one and decided they were best left to the children. Blech.

24. What’s your favorite fruit?

Again with the choosing only one?! How about we say that the only fruit I’m not particularly fond of is bananas and leave it at that?

25. Do you have a picture of yourself doing a cartwheel?

No. I have no pictures from my childhood. I can still DO a cartwheel, though, so I COULD have a picture of such a thing if I wanted one.

26. Do you like running long distances?

I dislike running. It’s boring.

27. Have you ever eaten snow?

One can’t grow up / live in New England without having eaten snow.

28. What color are your bedsheets?

White, with a light tan floral comforter cover from IKEA that I LOVE.

29. What’s your favorite flower?

Irises. I love most flowers, but irises are by far my favorites.

30. Do you do ballet?

Nope. I never took a lesson. I was a figure skater in my youth.

31. Do you listen to classical music?

Rarely, but it’s not objectionable to me. The girls listen to Mozart every night – it’s their “night-night music” that they’ve listened to since they were infants.

32. What is the first TV theme song that pops in your head?

One Day at a Time (This is it (this is it) / This is life / it’s the one you get /so go and have a ball!)

33. Do you watch Sponge Bob?

Spongebob is forbidden in the Chili household.

34. What temperature is it outside right now?

68 with wicked humidity.

35. Do people consider you smart?

Yes, I believe a lot of people do.  I try to live up to that as much as possible.

36. How many piercings do you have?

Four – two in each ear.

37. Are you signed on [to] AIM?

Not right now.

38. Have you ever tried gluing your fingers together?

I’ve not TRIED, but I’ve had a few mishaps with Super Glue.

39. How do you feel about your family?

I’ve chosen my family, so I adore them with every fibre of my being.

40. Do you have an iPod?

I have several. The Chili family, in total, has 7, including the iPod features in Mr. Chili’s and my iPhones.

41. What time do you go to bed?

I’m generally in bed by 10. Whether I’m sleeping at 10 is another matter, though; I tend to do a lot of reading in bed.

42. What CD is currently in your CD player?

I’ve got KT Tunstall’s Drastic Fantastic in the car CD player.

43. What movie do you know every line to?

The Hunt for Red October, MIB, Apollo 13, The Princess Bride and I can probably eek out most of Running Scared.

44. What is your favorite salad dressing?

O’Mama’s balsamic vinaigrette. MMmmmmm!

45. What do you want for Christmas this year?

New cookware, this pendant, book gift certificates.

46. What family member/friend lives the farthest from you? Where?

Mr. Chili’s sisters live in England.

47. Do you like hugs?

Very much.

48. Last time you had butterflies in your stomach?

Honestly? I can’t remember. I was a little nervous for Beanie’s The Raven, but not to the point of actual butterflies.

49. What’s the way people most often mispronounce any part of your name?

My name is easy and never mispronounced.

50. Last person you hugged?

Punkin’ Pie.

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Happy Monday!


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Happy Anniversary

My beloved and I celebrate 12 years of matrimony today.

I always find it interesting that I sometimes feel as if I’ve known Mr. Chili all my life – that we’ve never not been together – and sometimes I feel like our relationship is still brand new. We have a lovely dichotomy of settled and comfortable and new and surprising that makes me always glad that I said yes.

Here, then, are a dozen reasons why I’m glad I’m married to this guy:

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1. I get to laugh EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Literally, there’s not a day that’s gone by, in the almost-17 years we’ve been together, that he’s not said something that cracks me up. Sometimes, he’ll say something that’s funny to everyone in the room; sometimes, I’m the only one who “gets it,” but I’m guaranteed a chuckle every day. It keeps me coming back for more.

2. My husband is literally my best friend. Sure, I’ve got other best friends, but none of them comes close to the bond I share with Mr. Chili. He knows everything, and he loves me anyway. He fights fair. He makes allowances for my weirdness because he knows where it comes from. He steps in where I fall short and lets me fill in where he’s lacking. We make a great team.

3. He is what people call a decent man. He is kind and thoughtful. He’s practical and reliable. He’s honest and ethical. I’m proud of the man he is, and proud that he chose me to share in his life.

4. He makes a mean cheese souffle, he knows how to work the grill, the vacuum and the washing machine, and he keeps my computer in tip-top shape.

5. Mr. Chili has supernatural vacation planning abilities. He’s an AWESOME travel planner, he finds AMAZING deals on GORGEOUS apartments, and he makes sure that everything is in place before we leave so that we can have a smooth and stress-free vacation. Sometimes I give him shit about his fussy attention to detail, but I wouldn’t have him change a thing: I love going away with this guy, whether we’re having a weekend away, going on a family vacation, or spending a week at the lake with his parents (more on THAT later, y’all…)

6. We have nearly identical taste in movies and television, though not always in music (I tend to like my music a bit more rockin’ than he does, and at louder volume, too…). I adore that we come up with the same movie quotes in certain circumstances.

7. He is, as I mentioned on Father’s Day, an outstanding daddy. Really, there’s nothing about his parenting of our daughters that I would change. I’m sometimes a little jealous of my girls for lucking out in the Daddy Department.

8. He encourages me to keep growing and changing, and creates the environments I need in order to do that. He did full-time, single parenting (NOT babysitting!) duties for ten weekends while I did the Yoga National Guard thing. He’s going to do full-time, single parenting duties while I’m away at the fellowship in two weeks. He’s fully supportive of my desire to go back to school. He recognizes that I’m happiest when I’m thinking and learning and growing, and he does everything he can to see that I have every chance to do it.

9. He is a good friend. He will be the first to admit that he doesn’t have many friends, but he cares deeply for the ones he’s got. I love watching him interact with the people he cares about, and seeing him have a good time outside of the boundaries of our little family thrills me. He’ll do just about anything for Dudley, Bobo or Bowyer, and for as much as I’m greedy with my share of his time and attention, I like it when he’s enjoying time with his friends.

10. He’s got his priorities in order. His family comes first – we are what’s most important to him; no questions, qualifications, or exceptions. He checks in on his parents regularly and will step right into whatever caretaker role they may need of him (us) as time progresses. He cares for his friends. He’s careful and focused on his work. Everything else is just noise in the data.

11. He may well be the smartest person I know. I’m in awe of the work that he does, and of the thinking that he is capable of. He’ll tell you that he’s just a regular guy, but I’M telling you that he’s WICKED smaht. He is, to put it in terms we’d use, a “steely-eyed missile man.”

12. This last category is reserved for all the private things that make up a marriage. I love Mr. Chili for a million little reasons that I, regardless of my skill with manipulating language, could never adequately express, and wouldn’t even if I could. We fit, he and I, and there really aren’t words that are up the task of doing justice to that. You’re just going to have trust me on this.


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HOW Is This Causing Such a FUSS?!

Seriously – watch this ad:

Isn’t that a RIOT?! Did you see the bit with the leg after the smooch?!

The first time I watched this, I was half convinced that the deli man was Robert DeNero (I’m still a little giddy over his performance in Stardust, I think). It’s a sweet, funny ad, and I have no idea why so many people have themselves all in a twist over it. In fact, it makes me want to go to the market and find some of that roasted garlic mayo…

All right – get ready, because here it comes again: I’m going to keep saying it until I don’t have to say it any more. Love is love, and no particular flavor of love is any more or less valid than the next. How someone else loves has NO effect on anyone else unless that someone else has nothing better to do than to get all worked up over it, and I’m SURE we can find better uses of our time and energy.

I’ve changed my attitude about gay marriage – or, more to the point, I’ve figured out how to articulate that attitude in a more clear manner: we NEED gay marriage. It should not be questioned, it should not be limited, and it certainly should not be legislated. We need it for a number of reasons, but my big two are these:

One – if the State can legislate gay marriage, what’s to keep them from legislating ALL marriage? The fact of the matter is that it’s a very short step from the government’s interfering in one group’s affairs to its interfering in ALL our affairs. If you want to keep your marriage safe, you’ll want to ensure marriage for everyone.

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Two – the Universe needs all the love and compassion it can get. Marriage is hard, beautiful, important work, and the more people who do it – and do it well – the more light gets poured into the Universe.

Let there be light.


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Today’s a busy one for the Chili family. I’ve got a class to teach at 10:15, then the girls and I come home and prepare for our weekend. They are going to be staying overnight tonight with one of my former students (thanks, Jen!) and tomorrow night with a colleague of mine (thanks, NakedMessenger!) so that Mr. Chili and I can go out of town to celebrate our 12th anniversary. We’ve got ourselves a nice room, plans for dinner and a movie tonight, and a baseball game tomorrow night. WOO, HOO!

After doing some packing and preparing, we ladies are going to pick up my mom for a follow-up doctor’s appointment, then we’ll come back and head off for our respective adventures. I’m confident we’re all going to have a wonderful weekend.

Here, for Fucking Floral Friday (or is it Floral Fucking Friday? I can never remember!), is a single daisy that’s decided to grow all by itself next to the driveway. I love the tenacity of the little guy – it inspires me.

I have NO idea why the picture uploaded sideways, and I can’t figure out how to fix it. Sorry; I hope none of you suffers from vertigo…

Here, also, are some wildflowers growing along the route to Beanie’s school. I took them LAST Friday on the way back from waking her to her last day of third grade. First, though, a picture of Daddy and Beanie on said last day of third grade. They’re counting sidewalk gaps, by the way. There are 109 of them between where the sidewalk starts and the front door of the school, in case you were wondering…

Pretty yellow wildflowers – these are a lot smaller than they look in this picture…

and pretty purple wildflowers. I suspect these are a variety of clover, and I love how delicate they look in contrast to how hardy they are. I aspire to that dichotomy.

Happy Friday, Everyone!

Two bits of administrative-type stuff;

One; Mr. Chili and I, as I mentioned, are going out of town starting tonight.  I won’t have my computer with me.  I’ve scheduled posts, but I won’t be able to read any of your sites.  I’ll miss you, but I’ll be back.

Two: I think I need an intervention.  I’ve opened yet another blog – this one is where I put all my yoga-related writing (I was afraid of wearing some of you thin with all my yoga stuff).  It’s here, if you’re interested.


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Thought for Thursday

Mr. Chili and I celebrate 12 years of marriage on Sunday. In honor of that milestone, I offer this Thought for Thursday, attributed to Freidrich Neitzsche:

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

Are YOU lucky (or smart) enough to have married your best friend? What do you think are the essential components to a successful and enduring marriage? How do you maintain your friendships, whether in a marriage or not?


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We Are One

I found this over at Doc Leckridge’s site, Heroes Not Zombies.

As I watched it, I found myself actually welling up.

One of the essential truths of humanity is that, despite how very different we all are on the outside, there are essential parts of us that are EXACTLY the same. Joy. Love. Compassion.

I often tell my yoga people (and my children, and my students, and you… really, anyone who’ll stand still long enough to listen) to try to see that the light that glows in them is the same or, at the very least, is directly related to that which glows in me. I truly believe that it’s only the recognition of that sameness that’s going to save us.

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Go here to see more about this dancing project.


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Ten Things Tuesday

Ever peek into someone’s medicine cabinet? Oh, sure you have! Now, I don’t have a medicine cabinet per se, but I keep a lot of neat stuff under the sink. C’mon – you won’t even have to sneak…

1. Here we have some Noxzema. Mr. Chili loves this stuff, and I always have at least one container in the shower and two tubs of it under the sink. He shaves with it, I use it occasionally to wash my face (I like the smell and the tingle it leaves) and it’s great for soothing the (very) occasional sunburn.

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2. Here is why those sunburns are so “occasional.” I’ve got a bunch of different kinds of sunscreen to hand; Banana Boat, Neutrogena, Burt’s Bees, Lubriderm, Baby Lizard, and a tube of Desinex – yes, diaper ointment – for when we know we’re not going to be able to find ANY shade; the stuff is fantastic. Of course, you look like an idiot with big white streaks across your nose, cheeks, and shoulders, but you WILL NOT BURN under it.

3. Colegate regular flavor toothpaste with the flip-top cap. I buy these in multi-packs whenever I find them. I love the flavor – it’s neither too strong nor too sweet – and everyone in the family agrees on it, so I need only have one tube of toothpaste going at a time.

4. Here are some girly things… you don’t need to know about all that, do you? AH! Here we have some hair gel! I have no brand loyalty whatsoever where shampoo, conditioner, and hair gel are concerned; I usually buy whatever smells appealing to me when I’m out shopping (and yes, I flip the tops open and have a whiff. There’s little worse than buying an econo-size of something and finding out later that you hate the way your own hair smells). I gave up fighting against my hair about 10 years ago, and now I keep it trimmed to right around my shoulders. When it’s that length, it does a chic, wavy thing that really suits me, and all it takes to achieve that look is a little gel run through shower-damp hair. I love being low-maintenance.

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5. Speaking of low-maintenance, I almost never wear make-up, but when I do, here’s what I wear; we’ve got a compact of bronzer and a tube of lip shine from Apt. 5, a forest green eyeliner pencil, and a tube of mascara. I probably ought to throw the mascara away – I’m SURE it’s past its shelf date. If we dig through the depths of the cupboard, I’m sure we can find some loose powder back there somewhere, but I only trot that out for REALLY special occasions. (Note – as I wrote this, I went to find a link to Apt. 5 cosmetics and found, true to my health and beauty aid curse, that they’re no longer being produced. Figures. I’m glad I bought in bulk the last time I went shopping for make-up. The way I wear it, what I’ve got should last me a good long time. I probably ought to store my extras in the freezer, huh?)

6. Let’s see… what else have we got in here? Oh, now this is fun! I have to make an appointment with my dentist. You see, I’m dental-phobic and have to be essentially stoned in order to sit still enough to have anything more than a very careful cleaning done. I managed to find a dentist who puts up with my whiny-ass nonsense, and he prescribes these lovely little pills for me. They’re called Triazolam, or sometimes Halcion, and they’re an insomnia drug. The first time I went to have a filling done, my dentist prescribed one pill to be taken a half hour before I arrived at the office (of course, someone had to drive me). I managed to make it through the appointment, but I was literally weeping the entire time. He finished, buzzed the seat to upright and said, in his gentle and compassionate voice, “Okay, Chili; next time, you’re getting TWO pills, okay?” The last time I was in the office, they gave me the pills. I’ve not yet worked up the nuts to go back, though, stoned or not. It’s a comfort to know these are here for when I do. *Edited – I just got off the phone with the dentist’s office. I’m going in on the 22nd…*

7. Beyond the dentist’s pills, there’s not a whole lot else in the way of medications in here, actually. I’ve got a bottle of muscle relaxants left over from the last fight with my lower back, a bottle of cough syrup, and a bottle of store brand nighttime pain relievers. Oh, and there’s also a package of antihistamines; I need to carry these around with me in case of accidental contact with shellfish, and I replenish the purse supply from this box. Sorry to disappoint you – there’s really nothing juicy under my sink…

8. In the category of first aid, we’ve got a couple of boxes of assorted adhesive bandages (though Punkin’ worked her way through my remaining stash of Hello Kitties…), a tube of triple-antibiotic ointment, and a bottle of arnica gel. The last was recommended to me by Auntie Lynn and a few others just prior to my cyst removal; it’s an anti-inflammatory that everyone said would speed my healing. I’ve been using the stuff pretty religiously since the stitches came out and I’m really pleased with it. My doctor told me that it would likely be the better part of a year before the site returned to as normal as it’s ever going to get, and here I am, almost four months out and I don’t feel like my forehead arrives 5 minutes before I do.

9. Contact solution. I have what my optometrist calls “supernatural luck” with contact lenses, and I attribute most of that to my cleaning system. I’ve been using a no-rub system for about 20 years now, and since I quit the contact lens Soft-Scrub routine, I’ve never (knock wood) torn a lens. It works by pouring a bit of this peroxide solution into a cup fitted with a little metal disc at the bottom. The disc reacts with the solution to neutralize it. This process both sterilizes the lenses and forms bubbles, which shake loose anything sticking to the lenses. I pop them out in the morning, rinse ’em off with some cheap-o store brand saline, and I’m on my way.

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10. Burt’s Bees Lemon Cuticle Cream, Coconut Foot Cream, Radiance Body Lotion and Radiance Exfoliating Body Wash. Now, if we’re getting technical, only the lotion is actually IN the cupboard – everything else lives on the sink counter – but you know what I mean. I use the cuticle cream ALL the time, and as proof I can tell you that I have a tin of this stuff in my bedside table, in my purse, and next to the couch in addition to its being on the sink in the bathroom. I used to keep my nails covered in that awful acrylic because they were so thin and breakable. Since I started using the cuticle cream, I’ve had gorgeous hands. Observe:

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The foot cream is my next favorite Burt’s Bees. I’m a yoga teacher, you guys – my piggies are out in the open A LOT. If there were two parts of my physical body that I wouldn’t change, they’d be my aforementioned hair and my feet. I’ve got some cute feet, but only if I take care of them. A scrub with a pumice in the shower and a slathering of this stuff keeps my feet soft and pretty.

I LOVE the body lotion in the summer. I use it over my sunscreen, and it’s got little bits of sparkly in it so I literally shimmer in the sun. We Chili girls call it “faerie lotion.” LOVE. IT.

Finally, I use the body wash as my face cleaner. Just before I brush my teeth at night, I’ll give myself a gentle scrub with this stuff to wash off sunscreen, lotion, and the day in general. It smells good, a tiny bit goes a LOOOOONG way, and I don’t feel like my face is a chunk of the Mojave when I’m done (though I do dab on a bit of night cream, just because I can)

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Happy Tuesday, Everyone!


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