Monthly Archives: December 2009

Tearing Another Page

This is the last day on the 2009 calendar. I was going to write something long and profound about what a year this has been, until I came across this post from 1000 Awesome Things (really – put this site on your reader). It says everything I would have said, so go on over and have a look, then raise a glass and celebrate what it took to get you here.


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I’ve Got a New Sister!

Auntie proposed to The Girl on Christmas night!

My sister is someone who does not give it up easily.  She’s lovely and friendly and fun, but she’s also careful and guarded and wary, so when she loves you, you KNOW she means it.  About, oh, I don’t know, a month or so into her relationship with The Girl (we’re going to have to come up with a better blog name for her, don’t you think?) I was having lunch with Auntie when she said something like, “I know it sounds too soon to say this, but I think she’s The ONE.”

I was not surprised, but I was beyond delighted.  For a very, very long time, I’ve wished that my sister could find someone with whom she could be safe and happy and contented.  Auntie is someone who, like me, needs the grounding and stability that comes with a strong and healthy relationship and, thus far, that kind of relationship had eluded her.  That she had found someone who wanted the same things she did and who was willing to go the distance sent me right to the moon.

They’d talked a lot about getting married (now that our state – for the moment – will allow them to marry), but my sister told her beloved that she would never – NEVER, she said! – propose on a major holiday.  It’s lame, she thinks (actually, she says “it’s gay!”), so The Girl was prepared to not get a ring on Christmas.

Except that a couple of weeks before Christmas, my sister called me and asked me to get her in touch with Bowyer (who’s got some pretty serious experience in the diamond business) to see about getting a ring in time to do just that.  The entire Chili family met Auntie, Bowyer and Tonks in the mall on the weekend before Christmas to look at diamonds.

Auntie didn’t find anything she liked.  It was important to her that TG’s ring be unique – that no one else would have the same one – and she just wasn’t going to find that in the mall.  She was all stressed out when she left us, so I told her that I would go to the jewelers’ here in my hometown to see what they had in the way of one-of-a-kind pieces that were within her budget.

Nothing.  The closest I could get was a lovely ring with a teeny-tiny diamond that may or may not have been ready in time for Christmas.  Nothing doing.

When I called Auntie to tell her that, she was already in Quaint Coastal City to the South and asked me if I knew of any jewelry stores there.  I put her on speaker and accessed my iPhone to tell her that, indeed, there was an estate jeweler’s right near where she was.

About an hour and a half later, I got a phone call.  “Check your email,” she said.  This is what I found:

It’s a lovely piece from the 1940’s.  No one The Girl is ever going to meet will have the same ring.  Unique?  Check!

BUT, I’m sworn to secrecy, right?  Auntie’s going to propose on Christmas NIGHT – the girls and I can’t let on that we know anything about it.  GAH!

Even though TG knows that she’s not going to get a ring for Christmas (because, you know, that’s GAY!), she’s still really disappointed.  (“Curtains,” she said.  “Auntie got me curtains.”)  It was SO hard to not say anything – to not even HINT at anything – but I couldn’t.  Not only did I not want to wreck the surprise (because I, myself, love surprises; especially ones like this!), but I knew for sure that my sister would murder me bare-handed if I spilled it, so I kept my pretty little trap shut (and threatened the girls with dire consequences  – dismemberment was not out of the question – if they spilled it.  They were too engrossed in the day to even consider such a thing, so it was all good)

So, the way they tell it, they make it home on Christmas night after making sojourns to Chez Chili and to TG’s family’s place south of Boston.  They’re beat.  They’re hungry.  All they want to do is crash in their jammies with some muchies on the couch.  Auntie’s got the ring in her jammie-pants’ pocket, unbeknownst to TG (who, by this time, had gotten over her disappointment at getting curtains instead of a ring).  She looks at TG and says, “You know, there is one thing I really wanted for Christmas that I didn’t get.” – at which point TG is thinking “Yeah?  Well, *I* got curtains!”  She doesn’t say that, though; she says; “Really, Honey?  What did you want that you didn’t get?”

“An official yes.”

When Auntie described TG’s response over lunch last Sunday, I nearly shot soda out my nose.  Her eyes got HUGE, her mouth was open, she looked completely dumbfounded – and The Girl was at the other end of the table nodding and laughing and saying “I’m absolutely sure I looked JUST like that.”

They’re thinking of an October wedding.  I care neither for the date nor the type or scale of the festivities; what matters to me is that my sister has found her ONE.  As someone who has her ONE, I know that is the single most important piece in my life, and I am positively joyous that Auntie has that, now, too.

Plus, I have a new sister to love!


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Ten Things Tuesday

Gerry‘s Honey sent these to me about a week ago.  Under the subject line of the email in which they came, she’d written that the last one would be my favorite.  She was absolutely right.

We all know those cute little computer symbols called ’emoticons,’ where:

🙂 means a smile and

😦 is a frown.

Sometimes these are represented by



Well, how about some ‘ASSICONS?’
Here goes:

1.  (_!_)  a regular ass

2.  (__!__)  a fat ass

3.  (!)  a tight ass

4.  (_*_) an ass  hole

5.  (_o_) an ass that’s been around

6.  (_x_)  kiss my ass

7.  (_X_) leave my ass alone

8.  (_E=mc2_) a smart ass

9.  (_$_)  Money coming out of his ass

10.  (_?_)  Dumb Ass


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Monday Meme

The New Year’s Edition boosted, with love, from Chatty.

1. What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before?

I taught HIGH SCHOOL!  That’s quite an accomplishment, if I do say so myself!

2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I really don’t make new years’ resolutions; I try to be mindful of opportunities for growth and change all year.

3. How will you be spending New Year’s Eve?

We’ll be heading to Bowyer and Tonks’ place for food and friendship.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

My mother passed in the first hour of August 20th.  My Small One passed around 3 a.m. on October 28th.

5. What countries did you visit?

I never left the U.S.; I usually don’t.  We did, however, attend the inauguration ceremonies in DC in January with about 2 million of our fellow countrymen.  Even though we were still in our own borders, it was an experience unlike any we’re ever to have again.

6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?

A back porch, an upstairs bathroom, and a full time gig at CHS.

7. What date from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

August 20th, 2009.  See question 4…

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Huh.  That’s a hard one.  I think that the culmination of little achievements counts, don’t you?  I kept promises, I loved well, I learned and grew.

9. What was your biggest failure?

I’ve still not fully learned how to stand up for myself.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Not to speak of, no.  I had a mild shingles outbreak in the summer (Gee, Chili; we wonder why…?) and had my bout with what my coworkers lovingly call “hamthrax” over Thanksgiving break, but beyond that, I was strong and healthy.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

We’ve not actually bought it yet, but I’m betting the big screen is going to be a favorite purchase of 2009 (that is, if I can convince Mr. Chili to buy it in 2009.  Don’t hold your breath…).

12. Where did most of your money go?

Groceries and restaurants.

13. What song will always remind you of 2009?

The entire Burning the Days album by Vertical Horizon.  LOVE.  THAT.  DISC.

14. What do you wish you’d done more of?


15. What do you wish you’d done less of?


16. What was your favourite TV program?

Oh, THIS is an easy answer – I absolutely fell in love with Sons of Anarchy.  It’s going to be a long wait for the next season to start!

17. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

I try very hard not to hate; I find that the people I would aim that kind of energy at really aren’t worth it.  Are there people I avoid with vigor now that I didn’t a year ago?  Oh, Goddess, yes, but they aren’t worth the effort it would take to hate them.

18. What was the best book you read?

I didn’t get to do much reading this past year, so nothing comes to mind.  I did enjoy re-reading To Kill a Mockingbird, The Book Thief, and A Christmas Carol with my students, though, and I think that counts.  The Book Thief may well be one of my top-10 books of all time.

19. What was your greatest musical discovery?

I didn’t discover Vertical Horizon this year – I’ve been loving them for a goodly number of years by now – but I absolutely absorbed Burning the Days.  No, really; if you’ve not gotten this CD yet, please do.

20. What was your favorite film of this year?

I liked several films this year, in fact; Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince was a lot of fun, I enjoyed Star Trek FAR more than I expected to, and Avatar was a film that I enjoyed enough in the theatres that I’m going to buy it when it comes out on DVD.

21. What did you do on your birthday?

I turned 40 this year, and spent the day having lunch with O’Mama and being with my family in the evening.

22. What kept you sane?

Mr. Chili.

23. Who did you miss?

I’m finding that I STILL miss WeedWoman.  I’ve got to figure out how to get over that.  I miss Gerry. Honey and BlueMoon a lot, too, but I get to see them in the summer on the Cape and (and over February vacation in Florida!) and I can talk to them whenever I want, so that’s easier.

24. Who was the best new person you met?

I’m totally digging my new coworkers, and I’ve got a student or two who’s worked their little selves into my heart.

25. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009:

I already knew this lesson, but it was driven home this year, especially; love ’em while you’ve got ’em.

Happy Monday, Everyone.


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Quick Hit – Lie Back and Think of England

Or, in this case, stare at the ceiling and sing the theme to Sesame Street…

So, here’s the scene: I have no idea how we circled around to it, but Mr. Chili and I were at our end of the table at dinner this evening engaged in some pretty serious (and funny) references to our last… erm … intimate encounter (the in-laws and Bruder were on the other end talking and there were quite a few large-party restaurant noises, so we were pretty safe).  There was nothing overtly explicit – it was that sort of playful banter involving code words and facial expressions that, unless you were paying attention, could have meant anything.

Punkin figured out, in short order, what WE meant, though, and there was only so much of that she could take.  Her response?  She stuck her fingers in her ears, rolled her eyes heavenward, and started singing “can you tell me how to get… how to get to Sesame Street!!”

I haven’t laughed that hard in a long time.  My kid is great.


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It’s Just Not Right (Randomness on a Sunday)

When I drove by a bank thermometer this afternoon, it was registering 51°.  Now, I’m not complaining, mind you, but it’s the 27th of DECEMBER.  I’m terrified of the proverbial “other shoe;” are we going to get hammered in January and February?

Speaking of which, Mr. Chili has promised that we can go to Florida during our February break!  I’m already looking forward to it.  Our last day of school is the 19th; I’m going to campaign for a Friday departure – Saturday morning at the very latest.  I have no idea what we’ll do when we’re there, but the truth of the matter is that it doesn’t matter a bit to me; all I want is to be in the warm with people I love.  Everything else is just gravy.

Christmas day went exceedingly well.  There was only minimal drama and disapproval from the MIL.  My timing was off on dinner; I didn’t get the roast in in time for Auntie to be able to have any (I’ll do better next year, Sweet), but we got to spend some quality time with her and The Girl, notwithstanding.  MeadMaker and Bobbie came for dinner and stayed for a showing of Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince, and I believe a good time was had by all.  My house is an utter disaster at the moment, but I have little doubt that I’ll be able to rally some assistance from my family in the next day or so.

Not tomorrow, though, as it’s likely that the Chili family – Bruder included – will be heading to the sliding slopes for a little snow tubing.  The weather looks as if it’s going to cooperate:


Snow Chance for Measurable Precipitation 90%

and Bruder brought his cold weather gear, so away we’ll go.  My vacuum gets another day of rest!

More later!


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Oh, GOD.

It’s happened.  I didn’t think it would – REALLY – but it has.  The biologic has sent me a friend invitation on Facebook.

So.  Not.  Gonna.  Bite.


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