Monthly Archives: December 2010

Looking Forward

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Even though I don’t do resolutions, per se, I do take this time of year to reassess my focus and goals.  What can I say?  I get caught up in the momentum of everyone else’s resolution making.  So, in that spirit, I’m going to take a few shots at finishing this sentence:

This time next year, I …..

… will be 20 pounds lighter, stronger, and more healthy.  Seriously; I need to get this under control, not only for my self-esteem, but also for my health.  I’ve been making little changes which, to talk to the professionals, is the way to do it; little, gradual changes are more likely to stick, and so far I’ve made a couple of good ones that are sticking.  Now I need to make a few more, like going to the gym a half hour or so earlier for my Sunday class to get in some weight lifting (and maybe a mile or so of walking).  I’m also adding in some short-burst workouts that I can do in my living room with a couple of hand weights and an exercise ball.  I can do this… I need to do this.

…  will have spent less time behind my computer screen while I’m at home. I have already started this; I’m reading more actual books and just this morning I started clearing out my feed reader of the blogs that I only skim.  I don’t want my girls’ primary recollection of me to be sitting at my desk behind my computer.

…  will have stressed less about things I can’t control. One or two of the blogs I’ve cleared out are ones that focus primarily on political issues.  I’m going to stop fretting over the dumbass things people say on the television.  I’m not going to engage people who plainly have no interest in discourse.  I will tactfully avoid people who try to undermine my energy, and will be more mindful about not allowing them to do that when they can’t be avoided.  The partner to this is that I’m going to get MORE involved in the things about which I CAN effect change, and I’ve already got some ideas around that brewing in my head.  I’m sick of feeling helpless and frustrated, so I’m going to do something about it.

…  will have spent more time with the people I love and care about. My one big disappointment this year was that I didn’t see nearly enough of the people who make my life feel full and complete.  It’s not that I put those people off, it’s that we’re all so busy with the details of our day-to-day that it’s often weeks (or longer) before we get in touch again, and I’m done with that.  I’ve already made dates with a couple of people I’ve not seen in too long, and I’m going to see what I can do about making a weekly visit with people like O’Mama and my grandmother stick.  It’s my connection to the people I love that makes up a significant part of who I am, and I’ve let that go for far too long.

…  will have cultivated and nurtured that which makes me me. As an offshoot to spending time with the people who complement my energy, I will take time to be mindful of the things I need for myself.  One of the things I tell my yoga people is that taking care of yourself is not selfish; we can’t give what we don’t have, and if we don’t take time to restock our own stores and give ourselves what we need, we won’t have anything to offer anyone else.  I have a lot of people who need me, and I want to give them everything I can, so I’m going to start heeding my own advice and working on manifesting my highest and best.

Five valuable (and manageable) things.  What are YOUR goals for the coming year?

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Quick Hit: Bowling



Quick Hit: Bowling, originally uploaded by mrs.chili.

Beanie has her own style!

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Quick Hit: Bowling



Quick Hit: Bowling, originally uploaded by mrs.chili.

Punkin’ Pie workin’ the lane…

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Nearly Wordless Wednesday

43.  That’s how many books I read this past year.  Well, I read 36 books, but I read a number of them more than once.  Go… read… comment!

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Ten Things Tuesday

Ten things that I have enjoyed about this holiday:

1.  I loved continuing our Christmas morning tradition of having my sister and her wife come to be with us.  I love these women very much, and even though I’d totally understand if they weren’t able to make it here to Chez Chili on Christmas morning (I just want to see them; it doesn’t matter what the day is), I’m awfully glad that they can.

2.  I did absolutely nothing yesterday.  I mean nothing; I didn’t even get out of my pajamas.  In fact, the most strenuous thing I did all day was getting up to take a picture of my husband clearing the snow from the driveway.  The funny thing was, after a day of doing nothing, I was pretty tired.  I went to bed at 9:30, even.

3.  I’ve eaten some GOOD food this week.  My holiday prime rib was, as always, scrumptious.  Mr. Chili made a kick-ass turkey dinner sandwich for me the other day.  I have been enjoying sugar cookies and croissants slathered in Nutalla.  Yes, I know, I’m going to have to work it off later, but I’m really loving it now.

4.  I’ve watched some fun movies.  We viewed Despicable Me yesterday, along with a couple of episodes of The Pacific.  Earlier in the week, we watched Star Trek (the most recent film) and Mr. Chili pulled SALT from the Redbox in the grocery store (it was okay – I’m glad I didn’t bother to see it in the theatre, though).  I have a number of favorite DVDs pulled from the collection for later viewing, and Mr. Chili and I plan on taking the girls to see The Dawn Treader later in the week.

5.  I’ve been getting some good reading done.  I’m almost through Nicole Krauss’s The History of Love, and as soon as I turn the last page, I’m heading right into In the Shadow of Gotham.  Mr. Chili and I bought a copy of Parenting Teens with Love and Logic.  We’re big fans of the Love and Logic people – we used their ideas to parent the girls so far – and I’m hoping that I might find some similar wisdom in this book.  I have some great books lined up for my kids when we get back, too, so it’s going to be a fun couple of months for me.

6.  I haven’t done any work.  Well, that’s not precisely true; even though I am under orders from the Goddess of the Front Desk to not work at all this week (and trust me, you disobey The Goddess at your peril), I did return an email from a student asking for guidance on her project, and I wrote a letter to Stephen King’s foundation asking him to give us some of his time for our next book fair (we live within reasonably easy travel distance to the author).  I’m also going to see Bob tomorrow, and my hope is that he can guide me through the new feature on our LMS that lets me grade students papers online, but I promise not to do any of that grading until Sunday night.

7.  It hasn’t happened yet, but I’m looking forward to spending some time with O’Mama soon.  I really do enjoy a couple of hours at her kitchen table, and maybe we can even go out into the world for a while.

8.  It also hasn’t happened yet, but we’re planning on going snow-tubing with the Bowyer clan either tomorrow or Thursday.  We’re going to try a new (to us) place; I’ll report back!

9.  For all of my lovely laziness, I have been hit with occasional bouts of motivation.  I’ve managed to purge and reorganize all of my gift wrapping supplies, both for the holidays and for general occasions; all the boxes are mated with tops, all the gift bags are stacked in order of occasion, all the Christmas wrapping is collated and ready to go back in the basement.  I’ve also gone through several loads of laundry and am in the process of regaining control of my kitchen and dining room.  The tree will probably come down on the 31st, and I’ll do a focused vacuuming and cleaning before I reset the great room.  We were hoping to split the girls’ room this break, but they don’t seem particularly motivated to do the things that need to be done for that to happen, so I’m not going to worry too much about that.  The bottom line is that I don’t feel as though I’m overwhelmed by the state of my house, and I love how that feels.

10.  I feel like I’m slowly finding my emotional and spiritual center again.  While I didn’t come into this vacation week in the kind of desperate state I’ve felt in past years, I really did feel like the timing was perfect for me to stop and settle.  I’m using some of the time to take stock, to re-prioritize, and to evaluate so that I can come back better and more focused than I was when I started.

Happy Tuesday, Everyone!!  What are YOU doing with your vacation?

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Quick Hit: Nothing

I have done practically nothing all day.  We watched a couple of episodes of The Pacific (which I gave Mr. Chili for Christmas) and had some leftover mushroom linguine for lunch.  I read a bit, had a nap, and played some Scrabble Flash (given to us by Auntie).  I’m contemplating dinner and putting in Despicable Me after the rest of the Chili household gets in from playing in the snow.

I need to work more do-nothing days into my calendar, I think; this is all right!

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Quick Hit: Snowblowing

YAY!  A snow blower that works and doesn’t seem intent on killing my husband!!

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