Monthly Archives: March 2011

Thought for Thursday

There’s another one coming, Kids.


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Mrs. Chili is not pleased. I saw this on I Love Charts the other day, and it just about sums me up lately. I could use a little spring, if that’s all right with you…


Filed under my oh-so-exciting life, weather

Nearly Wordless Wednesday

One man molests his daughter.  The other regularly beats his.  A third berates and belittles his child with words.

Which child is better off?

Let me be very clear here; it is morally and ethically wrong to say that just because someone is treated worse than someone else, that “lesser” treatment can be excused.  One vile act cannot be made less reprehensible because something “worse” exists somewhere in the world.


Filed under Uncategorized

Ten Things Tuesday

The other day, Success Warrior asked a pretty simple question with a wickedly complex answer.  He wanted to know what good is, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since (not that I’ve never thought about this question before…), so I thought I’d try to answer it in today’s Ten Things Tuesday.  Ready?

1.  If we’re looking big-picture, conceptual stuff, I would say that “good” is something that benefits, gratifies, or enriches without doing any harm anywhere else.

2.  That being said, something can be good for someone but not so good for someone else and still be good.  Of course, that effect is maximized when the one for whom it’s not doing good isn’t doing good to begin with (I’m thinking here of hiding people from Nazis, of civil disobedience, and of the Libyan air strikes).

3.  Sometimes, the good that gets done is unpleasant at first.  I know for sure that most of my students don’t appreciate a lot of the things I make them do – and I KNOW my children don’t understand why I jump on them about some things – but eventually, they will (I hope).  I’m willing to fight with them today so that their tomorrows are easier.  Sometimes, the good is delayed.

4.  Generosity is good.  Be giving of your time, your energy, your wealth, your love.

5.  Kindness is good, and it costs nothing.  Be nice.  Hold doors, say please and thank you, smile at strangers once in a while, yield.

6.  Learning is good.  Don’t always be content with “good enough.”  Push yourself, see what you can do, want to know more.

7.  Contentment is good.  I know this is going to sound strange, given what I just said, but I know a lot of people who are never happy; they don’t have enough stuff, they aren’t thin enough, they aren’t rich/pretty/strong enough.  Sometimes, “good enough” really IS.  Once you figure out where you can be settled and where you can improve, you find your life really does rock.

8.  Commitment is good.  When more than one person is dedicated to a decent common goal, amazing things can happen; happy marriages, thriving businesses, vibrant communities, healthy environments.

9.  Tolerance and acceptance are good… most of the time.  I’m learning to moderate this quite a bit; I’ve taken a lot of hits for trying to tolerate the intolerable, and as a result, I’m learning that boundaries and a good, firm “no” are also good.

10.  Diversity is good.  Try new things, cultivate friendships with lots of different people (open a blog; honestly, that’s been the single biggest boost to the diversity of my personal community), travel.  The more things you have in your proverbial arsenal, the better you can experience the world.  The better you experience the world, the more good you can do in it.


Filed under Blogroll, compassion and connection, Friends, ideas and opinions, Questions, ruminating, this is NOT a drill

Quick Hit: I Love ‘I Love Charts’

This came up the other day, and I loved it:

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Filed under GLBTQ/Ally issues, quick hit

If You Can’t Say Anything Nice….

I’m learning, however slowly, when it’s best to just turn off the t.v. or push the back button on the web browser or to walk away from a discussion. It’s often difficult, as I’ve been feeling practically baited lately, but I’m getting the feeling that this is a lesson the Universe REALLY wants me to learn, and fast, because It’s been presenting me with multiple opportunities to practice this skill lately.

MULTIPLE opportunities.

All the time.

I saw this on the other day, and it struck me as particularly relevant.

I sometimes wonder whether people realize how little they’re actually engaged in real discussions; I’m willing to bet that what most people think are discussions are really far more one-sided than they think. I’m learning that life is way too short to engage people who think that way, and I’m getting better at figuring out when to walk away before I waste too much of my precious time and energy.

Sometimes, though? It’s hard.


Filed under concerns, dumbassery, frustrations, messages from the Universe, my oh-so-exciting life, politics, social issues, technical difficulties, this is NOT a drill, WTF?!

Don’t Blink!

Ooof, you guys! I’m never doing THAT again!

The sixth grade class at our middle school puts on a once-a-year, one-day trip to NYC. It’s not associated with any lessons or anything; it’s just something they do.

Punkin’ didn’t really have much interest in going when she was in sixth grade (I think that had something to do with a group of “mean girls” who were going), but Beanie was all over it, so the whole Chili family signed up because I sure as hell wasn’t going by myself, and neither was my husband. The trip was open to families (in fact, they encouraged it because the “teachers” wouldn’t be responsible for any of the kids; if you couldn’t convince a grown-up to go with you, you couldn’t go… it was weird; I’m still not sure I get the point of the exercise, but whatever), so we were went.

We were up at a little after three in the morning and on the bus and rolling by 4. We had a quick stop to change drivers and then another stop in Connecticut to have “breakfast” (the only thing open was a McDonald’s. Thanks, but no). We landed at Battery Park at a little before 11.

The tour included tickets to both the Liberty/Ellis Island ferry and the American Museum of Natural History. Here’s the thing with these kind of whirlwind tour thingies; there’s really no time to do any of the things they pack you in for especially well. As it was, we barely got off the ferry; we literally floated by the Statue of Liberty – we didn’t get off the boat – and then had about 20 minutes at Ellis Island before we had to get back to Battery Park to get on the bus to the AMNH because we were told, on NO uncertain terms, that the buses would NOT wait (Mr. Chili was less than pleased; he takes his museums very seriously and the fact that we were rushed, combined with a decided lack of sleep, made us all a bit short-tempered).

The thing that totally saved the day was the fact that Kizz was waiting for us at the museum. In fact, when I stepped off the bus, I was greeted by her grin and a hearty “Welcome to New York City; what can we get you?” What she got us was a yummy lunch of BBQ and even yummier waffles from the waffle cart (which, blessed be the Universe, was parked close to the hotel. Ask Kizz about the waffle cart; she’ll tell you great stories). I finagled her a ticket to the museum, where we managed, after our quest for lunch and waffles (HAD to have the waffles!), to spend about an hour before we had to get back on the bus (“we’re leaving at 5:30, so yo’d better be on the bus by then or you’re getting yourself home!”). We landed back in our hometown at a little before 11:00.

It was wonderful to spend that time with my friend, even if it was too brief. That being said, though, Mr. Chili and I have decided we’re not going on another one of those whirlwind, down-and-back trips again; it’s just too much. We have a thing about spending AT LEAST as much time in a place as the time it takes us to get there and back, and this trip didn’t meet that requirement. We’ll go back to NYC, for sure, but we’ll probably beg a weekend out of Kizz and spend some REAL time there.


Filed under family matters, Friends, Home and Family, my oh-so-exciting life, road trip!, weirdness

Quick Hit: I Want This

I heard this song this morning at the health club:

I hadn’t heard it in YEARS; in fact, I’d kind of forgotten about it.  I rushed home to find it on iTunes and, of course, they don’t have it. I couldn’t find anyplace to download it (legally), so I just put the DVD in my Amazon cart (used for $1.00. I’ll pay more in shipping). The thing is, I don’t WANT the whole CD (I’m trying to download all my CDs and get rid of them as it is; they take up quite a lot of space) but the only way I could get the song is to buy the whole disc.

Technology’s great… when it’s available.


Filed under admiration, Little Bits of Nothingness, music, my oh-so-exciting life