Someone I know (and, for as much as I fucking hate to admit it right now, someone I love) is doing something profoundly stupid and destructive and wrong. He’s decided to divorce his wife of more than 17 years to marry his girlfriend of 2 years so she can get a green card and stay in the country.
I cannot begin to say how fiercely this goes against everything I think is good or right, and I hate that someone I love can behave like someone I would never associate with under any circumstances. Even though this whole thing has nothing to do with me (beyond my affection for both him (asshole!) and his wife who, it should be noted, has been almost ethereally patient and reasonable about all of this), yet I can barely bring myself to think about him right now.
I will not be extending my usual invitation to Christmas this year to him, because I’ve already extended the invitation to his soon-to-be ex-wife. As circumstance would have it, I met her for coffee this morning and mentioned the invitation – my intention was to invite him this afternoon after I finished my housekeeping. She just called me to give me the news that she just got 10 minutes ago. So much for that idea.