Forgive me for being cagey. I have something I want to work out, but I don’t want to get into specific details.
I had a falling out with someone a while ago. My perspective is that it was based almost entirely on a failure on both our parts to communicate effectively – I thought something and they thought something different and neither of us was able to get though to the other well enough to make it work. I extended an effort to remedy the situation, but I have yet to receive a reply and, honestly, I’ve given up expecting one. As a consequence, the friendship broke down.
Something important is happening to that person in the near future, and I’m trying to decide whether or not to send out congratulations and good wishes.
O’Mama suggested that I try to find the edge between what I want to do and what I think that person would want. The trouble is that I think that the answer to those things are exactly opposed: I want to send my love and to open, again, a space where movement back together might begin, and I have the distinct impression that the person would be just as happy not to hear from me. My instinct, then, is to honor what I think they’d want and to let it lie, but I recognize that I may not be seeing it clearly.