Monthly Archives: June 2013

Quick Hit: Impatient

I can’t wait for us to hurry up and get to the point where same-sex couples are completely accepted as normal.

This afternoon, Mr. Chili and I had a “date” to celebrate our anniversary (which was yesterday, I know, but yesterday wasn’t convenient for a date, so we decided to go today).  Bean had to be at the park for her play before I got back from yoga, so Mr. Chili took her and hung around until I got there.  I came home, showered and changed, drove into town, left Punk at the park, and Mr. Chili and I strolled into the heart of Quaint Coastal City.

We had a lovely lunch at a restaurant we’d never been to before (at a table on a deck over the water, so we had a stunning view of the harbor and the bridges and the tugboats).  Afterward, we decided to stroll through some of the shops, so we took to the street.  There, we encountered a lesbian couple out enjoying the beautiful afternoon – just like we were –  holding hands – just like we were.

My only thought was “you go, Girls.”  I’m sure there were others, though, who were thrown off (at best) by these ladies out enjoying their day together.  I’m in a hurry to get through that part; I want for this to be the new normal.


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Mr. Chili and I were wed 17 years ago today.

There’s been sickness and health.  There’s been richer and poorer.  There have been good times and bad, and there will be again.  What I know for certain is that we’re supposed to be doing this together; that we’re better together, and that, even if everything else falls apart, we’ll still have each other.




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Quick Hit: Break a Leg! – *Updated*

Bean’s theatre-in-the-park group is opening it’s Annie production tonight (if the weather holds)!

I can’t wait!

*Updated to include* The weather held, and the show was fantastic!  It was especially impressive when one remembers that the whole week leading up to last night was pretty much a literal wash-out; the troupe could do neither their tech runs nor a full dress rehearsal, so this first performance was done on the fly and without a net.  There were a few glitches – mostly having to do with the sound system and the mics – but there was nothing glaring that took away from the show.

They play every weekend all summer long.  This is going to be fun.


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Quick Hit: Low Energy Day

Today’s been kind of a bad day.

I’m taking everything personally.  Every goddamned thing is frustrating me.

I hope this passes soon.


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Nearly Wordless Wednesday

We are all more free today.


I am so happy!!  Go here for a quick overview of how things are going to change.



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Ten Things Tuesday

Ten things occupying my attention at the moment:

1.  I know I shouldn’t be, but I continue to be drop-jawed astonished at what Republicans are doing.  Seriously?  No, I mean… SERIOUSLYGo here, watch this.  The Iowa governor personally gets to decide if a certain group of women (specifically poor women) get to exercise their constitutionally protected right to an abortion.  This moron thinks that a rape kit is akin to an abortion.  THIS one thinks that abortion should be outlawed because male fetuses masturbate (no, really!  And this guy’s an OB/GYN by profession!).  Wisconsin is following in Virginia’s footsteps and mandating state-sanctioned rape in the form of vaginal ultrasounds, and Texas is trying to close nearly all its women’s health clinics (even some which don’t provide abortions).  At what point are we going to say “here and no further”?

2.  Bean is an orphan in the ensemble for Quaint Coastal City’s theatre-in-the-park production of Annie this year.  We’ve reserved our table for opening night on Friday!  I’m very excited; I think the show’s going to be great.

3.  Mr. Chili has secured us tickets to see Matchbox 20 and the Goo Goo Dolls in Central City tonight.  We haven’t told the girls yet that we’re going; it’s a surprise.

4.  He’s also scored tickets for the two of us to see Vertical Horizon down the Cape late next month.  That will be a just-the-two-of-us trip as Punk will be at her music camp at Local U. and Bean will stay with a friend.  I’m looking forward to that trip.

5.  I don’t know yet if I’m allowed to spill the proverbial beans, but something good happened to a dear friend of mine (which, tangentially, means good things for me, too).  As soon as I’m permitted, I’ll write about it in less opaque terms.

6.  I’m down 23 pounds since my whole “get Chili fit” adventure began.  I had blood drawn this morning for a re-work of my chemistry; I come from such a long line of insistently unhealthy people that it’s a good idea for me to be vigilant about knowing what my numbers are.  I’ll be interested to see how the weight loss has affected my standings.

7.  Father Chili was diagnosed last week with bladder cancer.  He’s supposedly scheduled for surgery tomorrow, but in true in-law fashion, neither of them has been especially forthcoming about the details.  One of the things on my to-do list today is to get the information about the procedure out of them.  I’ve gotten a sub for my fitness class tomorrow so I can be on call.

8.  It is looking as though the world is about to lose Nelson Mandela.  This makes me sad on the one hand, and infinitely grateful that I appreciated him while we had him.  I’ve been aware of Mandela and his work since the mid 70’s; I became interested in South African Apartheid when I was about 9 or 10, and that interest led me to a study of Mandela and a deep admiration for his ethic.

9.  I really want to see Monster’s University and Despicable Me 2.  There are other films I’m looking forward to, but I think it’s kind of funny that the two on the top of my list are those.

10.  Still no word on the job search.  A friend of mine said that there’s often a flurry of openings in late July, early August (when people who’ve secured other positions give their current employers notice).  I may give myself permission to take a vacation from job hunting; it’s really starting to affect my energy in a negative way.  Being a qualified, passionate professional who can’t find a job is really demoralizing.


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Quick Hit: Thinking

This is likely going on my next classroom wall:

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While I say that the scenes with Banner and the Hulk are my favorites, this scene gets me EVERY DAMNED TIME.

The upstander is right; there ARE always men like that.  His refusal to kneel is important, and I’m thinking more and more that we shouldn’t have to suffer individual outrages to find the courage to stand up.  How long before we figure out that we are all diminished when any of us are abused, exploited, or forsaken?

I was having a conversation with a dear friend last week about this.  His contention is that the outrage has to reach high enough up into the social classes for there to be any real movement; that in order for there to be a collective and concerted push-back against the system, people who are now comfortable have to be made uncomfortable.

I know he’s right, but I reject that thinking wholesale.  Why should I have to personally experience injustice in order to be outraged that others are abused?  What’s up with the politicians who suddenly have an epiphany about equal rights only after someone they love comes out to them?  I mean, I get the whole “walk a mile” idea, but I’m pretty sure that was meant to be a figure of speech; is our sense of empathy so dulled that we can’t imagine what life must be like for others?  Can we really not muster up the energy it takes to imagine that other people don’t live our lives?

I saw this on Postsecret this weekend, and it got me thinking:


I think the answer for a lot of people is, “they don’t.  They just don’t.”  I think that it never occurs to most people to see beyond their lives and their situations and their concerns.   That frightens me, really, because without a sense of empathy, we really have no way of saving ourselves.

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